Take the high road when it comes to dealing with and protecting your children during divorce.
Divorce is emotional. Divorce is often a test of self-restraint. Child custody and visitation issues prove to be some of the most challenging issues emotionally for families going through a divorce. Always seek to take the high road when it comes to the children. Do not put them in the middle of your differences with your spouse. Remember that they always need to feel loved by both parents.
Here are some ways to protect your children if you are going through a divorce:
- Do not argue in the presence of your children.
- Do not send messages to your spouse through the children.
- Do not make derogatory comments about your spouse in the children’s presence and do not allow others to do so either.
- Do not ask your children to choose sides.
- Do not discuss any pending litigation (divorce, custody, support) in the children’s presence.
- Do not forget that children need to be loved by both parents.
- Do not forget that children are children.
- Do try to keep relations normal with your children and with your spouse when in your children’s presence.
- Do communicate with your spouse openly and honestly about your children. Remember that you must co-parent despite your other differences. Try to maintain a unified front when it comes to parenting your children through divorce and after.
This list is not complete but hopefully it will help you to remain mindful of protecting your children during divorce. Never forget that they love both their parents and should feel loved by both parents as well. Never do or say anything that would cause them to doubt for a second that both of their parents love them with all of their heart.
Saying bad things about a child’s parents causes the child to think bad things about themselves and harms their own self-confidence and self-worth. After all, the child thinks, I am part mom and part dad. Never give them reason to doubt themselves or your love no matter how tempting it may be to tell them how you feel about the other parent.
If you are facing divorce or a child custody and visitation case, please contact The Moore Law Firm PLLC for a consultation and more advice on how to handle your children through this difficult period.
Brian R, Moore, our family law and divorce attorney, would also be happy to spend a few minutes with you on the phone free of charge.